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Child Tantrumchild tantrum happens when your child is between the ages of one and two years. Nearly all babies throw fits, some more than others. Learning how to prevent and survive toddler outbursts is one of the challenges in discipline toddler. So what to do when your child gets into his tantrum at home, in public, or at guest's house? Child tantrum flows from to frustration,(such as your child is trying a complicated engineering feat and howls when it goes wrong), so don't ignore this need for help. Take this tantrum as a chance to connect: by helping your child get out of a tight spot. Offer a helping hand, a comforting " It's OK", and direct his efforts toward a more manageable part of the task.(for example, you slip the sock halfway onto the foot, and then he can pull it on all the way) Sometimes children just need to blow off steam. You can help your child by verbalizing for him what he can't say himself:" you are mad that Mommy won't let you have candy." other times, when children have lost control, they want someone bigger and wiser to grab them lovingly and firmly take charge, try" I'm going to hold you until you get control of yourself because I love you." Soon the tantrum will fizzle and you will feel your flailing child melt into your arms as if thanking you for rescuing him from himself Feel your way through the tantrum. Avoid forceful restraint. If holding makes your child furious and escalates the tantrum, loosen your hold or stop holding. Your child needs support, not anger. (forcefully holding on to your child when your child needs to release from you is controlling too much). The tantrum throwing child under age 2 will most often need the holding approach. He can't talk about his problems, Your strong arms in place around him give the message that since he is out of control, you have stepped in to help him hold himself together. You may or may not be heard, but you can speak softly near his ear reassuring phrases like "Mama is here. I'll help you. show me what you need," and so on. Don't coddler and don't allow his kicks and flails to hurt you. If you can't contain him enough and he does hurt you, calmly put his down next to you and stay as close as you can without letting him hurt you. When to hold the child and when to just be on standby is a tantrum-by-tantrum call. If neither ignoring the tantrum nor comforting doesn't work, try call for "time-out". For example, if your child throws a tantrum in the supermarket, you may calmly pick him up and retreat to a corner in the store or head for the car.
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